How many of you reading this has children? How many of you reading this are women who have had children? How many of you reading this are women who have had children and didn’t think you would make it through the first trimester?
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When Dan and I set out two and a half years ago to have a child, we never expected the journey we would take to get here. Infertility treatments, miscarriage, and then final acceptance of God’s plan – that I would remain childless. So we did what every self respecting couple would do – we sold all of our baby stuff collected from his kids and built a pool. We were happy, accepting the awesome life we had and relishing in the future with his three kids and my love of feeling good.
But God has other plans doesn’t He? And quite a sense of humor!
After all the time and money spent trying to start a family, God chose to step in and take matters into His hands. So here we are, in the last week of my first trimester and boy what a time we have had.
I believe that the first trimester has been the scariest, happiest and most comical time of my life. Scary because you just never know what is going to happen to this little ball of life growing inside of you. Every twitch got me thinking about the baby I lost and the devastation I felt for that life that we would never meet. Happy because, after all we had been through, God chose us to raise one of His children and teach him/her all about the grace, forgiveness and mercy of His love. Comical because, well, being pregnant is funny.
In the spirit of true Coach K, I want to share with you a few of the experiences we have gotten to live as a result of the first trimester. I hope you find them as funny as we did, it has truly been a humorous time for us so far.
1. Did you know that a pregnant women’s sense of smell is amplified? I didn’t until I started realizing how smelly everything is in this world. And that can take a toll if you are nauseous every moment of every day like I have been. One time, in particular, stands out for both Dan and me. We were sitting on the sofa, watching a movie and I said to my dear, sweet husband “Dan, I am sorry to point this out, but I think your feet are smelly, can you please go and change your socks”. He swore to me up and down his feet were not smelly, and that he did not need to change his socks. I, of course, thought he was crazy and mumbled something under my breath that probably wasn’t very nice. Flash forward to an hour later, as I was sitting at my desk getting some work done. Low and behold, it was ME that smelled bad, not him. I had to text him right away to point out the error of my ways (and of my nose).
Caveat here folks – when you read things in “…” and you are reading the words “please”, “sorry” and “thank you”, just understand, due to my raging hormones, I was not actually using those polite and kind words. Just making sure we are all on the same page here.
2. Every pregnancy is different. Every woman gains weight and starts showing at different times. I expected to have a baby bump in my second trimester, so you can imagine my surprise to look down and see the baby bump around week 10. My doctor assures me it is because I am small boned and only weigh 121 lbs, and that this sweet baby and his/her entourage (bloating, amniotic sac, etc.) have nowhere to go but out. I want you to know, I am totally fine with that. I have never weighed more then 128 lbs in my whole life so gaining weight doesn’t stress me out at all. I welcome the chance to put on a few pounds. What I don’t welcome is not fitting into my favorite jeans, then having to borrow some maternity jeans from a friend and subsequently popping the button off of “said” jeans at a dinner party. After my initial shock, I thought I would start crying, but instead Dan and I just started cracking up uncontrollably.
3. I love football. I know this is not a surprise to any of you who follow my blog. What you may not know is that I am not a Seattle Seahawks fan (come on friends, if your team was beat so badly by them in the Superbowl, you wouldn’t like them either). What I will never understand is the complete crying meltdown I had when one of their players got injured. I cried like a baby for about 30 minutes. Picture this, Dan walks into our living room and I am sitting on the sofa sobbing. He asks “what is wrong babe”? I couldn’t even answer I was crying so hard. He looked up at the television to see that Seattle Seahawks player on the field being attended to and just laughed. I can’t even remember his name now, because I have never heard of him, but boy was I sad when he went down.
4. This one should probably not be shared, but it is too funny to pass up. It is no secret that women’s bodies change and things that worked regularly don’t work so regularly anymore. Along with the pure exhaustion of my first trimester, this has been the most unpleasant side effect of being pregnant. However, the humor involved with this side effect has been, by far, the funniest times Dan and I have shared during it all. I will say, I am not sure what pregnant women did before the iPhone and texting. I know I have completely made a fool of myself with the texts I have sent Dan while waiting out regularity. I also know that I have completely stumped my 5 year old step daughter Delaney, who oftentimes sits outside of my bathroom, asking every 2 minutes when I will be done so we can go back to playing. I only wish I had an answer for her most of the time.
There has been so many other times that humor has taken the lead role in this pregnancy. Way too many to share here today, but we are keeping a journal and look forward to many years of laughs when the baby shows up in the summer of 2016.
For now, we are enjoying this experience and are forever grateful for the chance God has given us to be here today.
We ask for prayers as we continue on this journey, and hope that our baby continues to grow strong and healthy until we meet him/her this next summer.
Merry Christmas, happy new year and I will be praying that 2016 is a wonderful year for you all.